What ours schools lack in formal sexual education, broadcast television fills in with the nitty gritty visual details even if lacking some of the less sexy reality facts (such as theUnited Stateshas the second highest teen pregnancy rate). After watching a particularly racy episode of Gossip Girl, I remember thinking, man I wish I was 16 again so I could have that amazingly effortless, safe and consequent free sex.
After years of disappointingly surface content surrounding teen sex, it was surprising, refreshing and a little humbling to see teen sex tackled with such ease and common sense as Glee’s “Sexy” episode did this week. It didn’t talk down to teens, it didn’t over simplify something as complicated as sex and most importantly it didn’t pretend sex doesn’t exist.
In probably the best teen sex speech I’ve ever heard, Kurt’s dad tried to express the complexities of sex to his son. The speech, in the episode directed toward a gay teenage boy, is universally applicable to all teens (and some adults for that matter).
“For most guys sex is just this thing we always want to do. It’s fun. It feels great. But we aren’t really thinking about how it makes us feel on the inside or how the other person feels about it. Women get that it is about something more than the physical. When you are intimate with someone in that way you are exposing yourself. You are never going to be more vulnerable. That scares the hell out of all of us guys. You got to know it means something. It is doing something to you, to your heart, to your self esteem. Even though it feels like just having fun…When you are ready, I want you to do everything. But when you are ready I want you to use it as a way to connect with another person. Don’t throw yourself around like you don’t matter. Because you matter.”
If only everyday parents could start saying this to their teens maybe we wouldn’t need broadcast TV to do it for us.