In Advocates for Youth most recent scary Carebears from abstinence only education youtube video, one rosy-cheeked teddy bear explained to her elder teddy bear how one abstinence only lesson preached the age-old wisdom that girls should be seen (preferably in tight revealing, but not too revealing clothes) and not heard (especially when it involves opinions, shows intelligence or may make a man look stupid).
In this heart-breaking, feminist-cringing lesson, girls are told that the prince leaves the princess after she gives him too much good advice about how to kill dragons. From deadly poisons to the effectiveness of rope over sword, the princess knows the ins and outs of dragon slaying and uses her vast knowledge to help the prince. The prince annoyed by this vast knowledge, leaves the princess for another maiden less vocal in her dragon-killing opinions. We assume the mute maiden and pompous prince live happily ever after or at least until a dragon comes along and kills them both.
Although I tend to think this lesson is an extreme and probably a product of a bleeding red state, it still emphasizes the harm of abstinence-only education especially in reinforcing gender stereotypes which have not been useful since the days of dragon-slaying.
And more than being harmful to all the little potential feminists of the future it teaches the OPPOSITE of what abstinence only education claims to teach. The lesson tells girls to not express their opinions or use their knowledge when it comes to making life-changing decisions with a partner, like perhaps the decision to have sex. So when a prince says he wants to have sex with the princess she should not protest with her knowledge of potential risks, she should go along with the prince’s decision.
So the moral of this abstinence-only fairy tale is either you voice your opinion and you end up a lonely bitter princess in a decaying tower or you don’t and you end up a knocked-up maiden with gonorrhea. Oh the joys of being a princess.